On Weaning Baby #2 / Stopping Nursing the Second Time Around

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So I posted a few days ago on Instagram that I am in the process of weaning Graham – I received a bunch of questions and request for a post, so thought it would be a good time to do that on the blog today!

Here’s the deal -> Charles and I booked a trip to San Francisco {wooohoo! recommendations welcome!} next month. Neither of us have been there and we are going with another couple – I’m so excited! We were deciding on a trip because we wanted to get away to celebrate Charles birthday, which is at the end of this month, and just have a few days kid free – since it’s been a crazy few months. I decided this would be the perfect time and excuse to wean Graham.

I stopped nursing Brooks at 14 months  – Check out my Weaning at One + On Stopping Nursing posts for more info on how it all went down with B! It was relatively easy – he was such a good baby and is still such an awesome kid. He’s the most mellow and go with the flow kind of guy. Back then, I just dropped the feedings down to one each week until we went away on a trip and then that was it.

All good.trees

Graham is a little different – he has much more of a ‘tude and is a little more ‘attached’ to the nursing I would say. He has been known to have little baby tantrums where he flings himself on the floor and kicks and cry if he doesn’t get his way. It’s kind of hilarious, except for when he has a little attitude about nursing. I’m not into that. But if he doesn’t get nursed first thing in the morning – he starts to freak a little bit. And with Brooks and Graham I did what they told me not too do – I would nurse each of them down to sleep at night and for naps. It worked out so easily with Brooks, I didn’t think it would be hard – but different personalities can cause different issues –  learned that quick!baby-cheeks

Once we booked our trip to San Fran, it was a little more than a month out and I decided that was it. With Brooks, I had lots of pain nursing on one side from the beginning and it eventually went away, over a looooong period of time. With Graham, it started out super easy and over the past few months, I’ve been having that pain again. Not sure if his latch is different with his new teeth or what, but leaves me sore and in pain a lot – another reason I was looking for an excuse to call it quits. It hurts.

Listen, I’m on the nursing team. I’m all for it! But you have to do what’s best for you, your body, your child, your family – everyone! I nursed both my boys 13 months + and I have been nursing and/or pregnant for the better part of almost 4 years since I was pregnant with Graham when Brooks was not even a year old. I’m ready to have my body back to myself. Not sure if we will have more kids, we are taking time to enjoy our little ones right now before figuring all that out, but I’m ready to not nurse and have my body for me again.the-look

We had a good run, it was an amazing bonding experience, I gave my boys the best nutrition, we saved TONS of money not having to buy formula  {money to spend on this trip, one might say ! Ha !}  I even donated some of my breast milk to a local family in need. Breastfeeding, nursing and pumping were all good things for me and my family. Even through the pain.

But I’m ready to call it quits.

So I decided last week to cut out the nap time nursing sessions, one by one – since he still takes 2 naps a day and was nursing first thing in the morning and last thing at night, we were about at 4 nursing sessions a day. And I need to cut that down to one by mid-November.

Graham has regular cow’s milk during meals sometimes and I still have a large supply of frozen breastmilk in the fridge – which is what my parents will use when we go away on our trip. {I’m also a little excited to have my freezer back too!} Last week I started a new nap routine: diaper change, book, twinkle twinkle little star song, a kiss and goodnight. At first, little man wasn’t having it and it was a little rough. He was fed, full and tired, but just wanted the comfort of it all – which I get. But he wasn’t even nursing, he would have a “sip” or two and then be done. He would rarely nurse to sleep, just nurse and I would put him in the crib and he would roll over and put himself to sleep.

Which is the goal, right?story

It’s all about getting the little to comfort and put themselves to sleep on their own, which I know he can do.  He does it all the time as he sleeps through the night but does get up in between sleep cycles and then puts himself back down. Also the past few weeks, he’s just been wanting to nurse for a second and then pushing me away, which I would then put him in the crib, wide awake to get himself down. I’m not saying there aren’t some tears involved when he does that, but after a few minutes, he does get himself to sleep.

Which, again, is the goal, right ?!us-love

So last week was a little touch and go with missed naps, a cranky babe and his two front teeth coming through didn’t help either. But I kept on sticking with our schedule, which I know works for him, and eventually I am seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. I did Monday – Thursday cutting down the morning nap and then on Friday we randomly ended cutting out the second nap time nurse session. Haven’t looked back since.

We are still going the morning one this week along with the bedtime – I might attempt at stopping the morning one next week and see how that goes. Again, he gets a little feisty in the morning without it, but I think doing the bedtime nursing last and cutting that one out at the end, before we leave for our trip makes the most sense. At least it did with Brooks so we shall see.

Again, that’s the plan – we will see what the next month brings – it’s crazy to have a countdown and I have some mom guilt about it as well, but I know it’s what makes sense for us and I’m excited for what’s next!

I’ll be sure to keep you updated on how it all goes ! Wish me luck !

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3 Comments

  • Reply Cameron Swaggerty October 11, 2016 at 8:45 am

    I was at the doctor the other day and I felt so guilty because my son’s diaper rash was really staph! She told me the only thing greater than a mother’s love was a mother’s guilt. She told he to save the file for something else because this was minor. I still feel bad but dang that made me feel better.

  • Reply Krista October 11, 2016 at 4:42 pm

    No need to justify stopping- if it’s right for you, that’s all the matters! Good luck! Be strong! And have fun on that trip- you deserve it.

  • Reply Patty O October 11, 2016 at 7:48 pm

    You’ve done an outstanding job breast feeding your boys and I think it
    s fair to stop after the first year. Graham will be fine, he’ll gobble up the frozen breast milk in a bottle – no worries! Maybe you should start using the breast milk now to wean him off the breast.

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